If you’re getting a divorce or have finalized one recently, you may be worried about how it is affecting your children. It’s likely they’ve been feeling sad, confused, and stressed, so as a parent, it’s essential to be extra mindful of their well-being and help them out however you can.
Here are a few tips to help you support your child during or after your divorce:
Work Hard to Co-Parent
During and after divorce, your child may witness fights and anger between you and your ex-spouse that can leave them feeling at fault and as though they’ve done something wrong. Always keep your children out of arguments. Also, take time to discuss how you plan to co-parent effectively to create a happy environment for them; communication and compromise are key.
Maintain Consistent Routines
Establishing consistency and structure through daily routines can be a big help during a difficult time. Schedules and routines help your child have peace and stability when other areas of their lives are drastically changing. It’s also important not to be lenient with tasks such as chores, homework, and other responsibilities too often; you may want to let them slide, but this can become a habit quickly.
Stay Involved in Their Lives
Every child should have a close relationship with both parents if they want. When you are with your child, take advantage of the time and remind them of how loved they are, enjoy special one-on-one time, and have thoughtful conversations. You don’t want your child to feel unimportant and like they aren’t a priority, so make sure you stay involved in their lives, even if they aren’t living with you.
Show Your Support Toward The Other Parent
Depending on your relationship with the other parent, this may be easier said than done. But for the sake of your children, make a strong effort to support your child’s relationship with the other parent. Try to encourage your child to enjoy time with the other parent and avoid saying anything negative about your ex-spouse so they don’t have to feel like they need to take sides.
Help Your Child Express Their Feelings
Your child may have feelings of sadness, resentment, and anger surrounding your divorce and the parenting situation, and they may need help expressing it; bottling up emotions is never a good idea. Let your child know they can talk openly with you and listen to what they have to say.
Be Honest
Depending on your child’s age, they deserve to know the truth about why you’re getting divorced. Full details aren’t always necessary, but it’s better to be honest and forthright as much as possible. Plan ahead and be mindful when talking with your child. They’ll appreciate your honest and direct communication.
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